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July 10, 2012 in Uncategorized by admin | 13 comments
Tags: Erica Mather, Forrest Yoga, life skills, self help, yoga philosophy
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Channa on July 24, 2012 at 4:22 pm
Thank you for your inspiration. A much needed reminder of the beauty and pain in truth.
admin on July 28, 2012 at 1:40 am
Glad to help, Channa. Hugs, E
Trevor on July 28, 2012 at 7:33 am
I love your work.
I just question telling the truth when it is harmful. Perhaps, sometimes it is kinder to withhold the truth out of kindness to others.
I wonder about self-inquiry before we speak. Am I withholding the truth to protect a perception that, I or the other person, have of me ? Or am I genuinely concerned about their feelings?
I am thinking about my parents in their 80s. To speak my truth may be liberating for me but devastating for them!
admin on September 20, 2012 at 2:43 pm
All good questions, Trevor. There is an art to discernment–when someone will be able to hear your truth, and it will therefore be helpful and not harmful. Sometimes, I feel compelled to speak, because if I didn’t I would regret it, and sometimes we really only get one chance to do it…Anyway. Thanks for your reply. I enjoy our dialogues. E
Richard Bird on October 24, 2012 at 4:11 pm
In 1994 my younger brother robbed a bank and was sentenced to 23 years in prison. While Aunts and Uncles knew of his incarceration my 90 year old Grandmother did not.
We (my siblings and I) were instructed by my father not to tell her for fear it could kill her. She once asked me: Richard, how is Tom, what is he doing? My response was I haven’t, seen him in years.
I knew that Gram knew something wasn’t right. She passed that year. Since that time my thoughts were always that it was more damaging to withhold information of this type because as we know “energy doesn’t lie”.
For the elderly (in this case anyway) they need not second guess themselves and their inner knowing and guidance system. They seek validation of their inner promptings and telling the truth can be just the medicine they seek. Many elderly today begin losing their mental abilities and seem to become more child like it becomes our dilemma as to what is best.
admin on November 24, 2012 at 5:00 pm
What a fascinating story, Richard. Thank you so much for sharing. hugs, E
Hannah on October 5, 2012 at 4:30 pm
Hullo Erica! I’m a fellow Forrest yogi and I enjoy reading your blog, you have many good things to say and you say them well. You are obviously a deep thinking and feeling person. My comment to you with only the best intention in mind and heart, is that as I watched your video clip on Truth and Lies I found myself wanting to hear more stories of your own personal experiences in life as you put these teachings into practice. It would help me feel more of a connection with you if you told a personal story that I could relate to. Give us an example of how you took a teaching to heart, applied it in your own life, and what were the results?
Thank you for putting yourself out there and sharing your practice with us, I know it’s not always easy.
admin on November 24, 2012 at 4:59 pm
Hannah! Thank you for the feedback! I will do that. Sometimes I don’t include stories because the really impacting ones involve people from my own life (of course) who deserve my respect and their own privacy. I’ll definitely think about how I can provide some more examples that are “clean karma” so that you can understand even better what I’m talking about. Thank you! E
victor beube on July 4, 2014 at 4:28 am
Erica: I’ve just started to read your blogs on “What I learned at yoga” and in particular “Truth and Lies.”
Your self examination and introspection is remarkable. I admire your education and close self inspection.
I thought that yoga included an attempt to control the mind. When one attempts to control the mind, one would slowly solve the questions of loneliness and incorrect eating.
I notice in another blog that you mention the importance of sleep, exercise and proper food as matters that a person should address to lead a healthy life.
I have not yet heard or read anything you have to say concerning the importance of orgasms in a healthy balanced life.
Is that part of “Stuff I learned at yoga?” What are your views concerning control of the mind and the importance of regular orgasms?
admin on July 22, 2014 at 1:19 pm
Thank you for your thoughtful questions. I don’t explicitly discuss sex on this blog at this time because of three things. 1. I think that when a yogi starts talking about sex, it points to a conversation about Tantra, which I have no formal training in. 2. I believe that things which are personal ought to remain so, until a writer decided consciously to make it public. 3. There is a kind of 5th-grade humor around the idea that “yogis are better in bed.” I don’t want to perpetuate that, nor to imply that it’s true, because it is impossible to verify.
That said, from a purely anatomical standpoint, many of the asanas that we do improve the tone of the pelvic floor, which in both men and women improves performance. So, yes, yoga is helpful for your sex life. And, I agree that orgasm ought to be a regular part of every man and woman’s life.
By all means, let’s discuss more in person.
jim bacon on July 22, 2014 at 4:19 pm
Thank You Erica…This reminder is timely and precious for me, and it’s always such a treat to see your smile! I find myself challenged in the matter of telling the truth about what I want to others and to myself. I know that I developed this practice to avoid disappointment but the cost can be very great. I’m pleased that I told myself the truth about wanting that Boston training in 2006 and the other great yoga experiences where our paths have crossed..I Love and Appreciate You!…
Chelsie on July 22, 2014 at 5:13 pm
I have begun paying attention to my internal dialogue. Through this I have realized that I am constantly either under or over inflating my talents, skills, abilities, attractiveness, intelligence…etc.
I then discovered the reason I do this.
It is because I am using the external to validate my worth as a human being. This is why I must constantly compare myself to others, or to my own internal expectations, which are ultimately formed from my observations of society’s values and the ways others measure up to those values.
This realization has put me in a strange place. I can no longer get swept up in the excited, jacked up feeling I get when I observe that I AM better and therefore WANTED and VALUABLE. Figuring out how to avoid being brought down into self pity and dejection when I DON’T meet expectations has proven more difficult.
Mindfully refusing to “attach” to either of these states of mind leaves me in a strange no man’s land: If I am not better or worse, what am I? The result reminds me of depression mind, where there is nothing to feel. Except depression is heavier. This is more like floating and dissolving at the same time.
Aaron Einsidler on July 22, 2014 at 8:56 pm
Thanks for shedding light on this often taboo topic of veracity. Through personal experience I can vouch that my repeated lying in the past to my lover, family and dearest friends regarding my struggles with substance abuse were manifesting in horrific physical symptoms. I had a herniated disk in my back and the pain from it was augmented significantly as I tried to continually cover my tracks, hiding things from those dearest to me. By finally being able to be honest with myself first and foremost that extra burden and monkey on my back that was literally compressing my spine was finally lifted, the pain ceased to a large degree, and I’ve managed to get back on my yoga mat every day ! I wholeheartedly believe that honesty is always the best policy regardless of the situation. Thank you very much for taking such an open approach toward a subject many people don’t like to necessarily discuss- Who would ever want to think of themselves as being untruthful?
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